Private couples therapy intensives are multi-hour, multi-day therapeutic experiences with a licensed, trained, and experienced couples therapist.

 

Why not traditional hour a week therapy? The emotional life of a couple is often layered and dense, and one hour is rarely sufficient for both members to settle into the space, clearly identify the problem, and begin to implement new ways of being with each other. Rather than getting to the root of the primal, unconscious, attachment wounds driving the patterns of conflict and distancing, weekly therapy can sometimes aggravate “raw spots” in the relationship and therefore exacerbate the problems. Intensives provide the optimal conditions to create meaningful, lasting change in just a couple days.

 

A couples therapy intensive might be right for you if:

 

♥️ You love your partner but feel stuck in the same arguments, never-ending bickering, hurt, anger, or resentment.

♥️ You miss the excitement you and your partner once shared. You’ve gotten lost in the never-ending to-do lists.

♥️ You don’t have the energy to fight so you just avoid the issues and hope they will get better on their own.

♥️ You fear disappointing your partner and worry you might not be enough for them.

♥️ You are navigating the aftermath of betrayal of some sort (emotional, sexual, financial).

♥️ You recognize the value in investing in your relationship.

♥️ You understand the quality of your relationship profoundly affects your children.

♥️ You have a busy life, value your time, and are ready for change NOW.

 

A couples therapy intensive is probably not for you if:

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🚫 You do not feel physically or emotionally safe with your partner.

🚫 You are not open to change.

🚫 You are looking for a mediator to take sides and figure out who is right and wrong.

🚫 You want some tips on how to better tolerate or get along with your partner but don’t care to do the work to create a highly attuned, deeply satisfying relationship with them.

 

Your relationship is POWERFUL. Love is the most powerful healing force on the planet. It is the whole point. Despite best efforts (and not so best efforts) on the part of caregivers, many people experience unmet attachment needs and trauma in childhood that shape their entire lives going forward. Our romantic relationships give us a unique window into our deepest beliefs about ourselves, the world, and what we feel we need to do in order to stay safe. How we react when conflict arises, and the protective strategies we use, are adaptations that at some point were essential to our survival, but now prevent us from experiencing new levels of love and acceptance.

 

A relationship where each partner is attuned to the inner world of the other, able to compassionately respond in the moment to what they and their partner are experiencing on a deep level, dramatically reshapes your neurobiology and your future. It is the closest thing we have to a time-machine, not to change the past but to change the power it holds over your future.

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Couples intensives typically include a pre-session, a comprehensive assessment, a workbook tailored specifically for that couple, 10 therapy hours over 2-3 days, and a post-session about 60 days after the intensive. Cost is approximately half of what weekly couples therapy would run for a 6 month period and vastly more effective. Reach out today to learn more.